Referral
June 26, 2008
As you all know we have been waiting for some time for a referral of our child from Korea. Well the day has finally arrived. I was outside doing some lawn and garden work when I got the call from our social worker at the agency. When she to
ld me the news, I asked if it was a girl or a boy. She replied, It’s a little boy. Everything after that I did not hear. Not that I was not interested mind you, but that my mind was trying to compute It’s a boy! I then got the opportunity to share this news with my wife. I quickly called her. What an amazing moment. Luckly, Jo-Ann and I were both available to stop everything and go into the city to meet with our social worker and see the first pictures of our Son. We took the train in. Of all the years that I have taken the train, this was by far the longest train ride ever. The initial call was at 11:50 am, we were in the agencies office by 2:30pm the same day. The social worker handed us a folder and some pictures. The first pictures we were to see of our son. We read about our son's history and medical reports. Korea is very thorough in their child referrals. We learned just about everything we need to know about him. There was some medical stuff that we need to give to a doctor who is experienced in adoption referrals, but all in all a good day. Jo-Ann and I, excited about the referral, decided to celebrate at her favorite restaurant, Penang. The next step is to talk to the referral doctor and then we need to formally accept the referral and then more waiting. The social worker told us that it may be up to 4 months before we can meet our son. In the meantime we have some "nesting" to do. We have been starting to think about nursery themes and colors. Before we got a referral it was so difficult to focus on these things because we didn't know the age or the sex of the child. Everything we bought in preparation had to be generic. Good for both a little girl and a little boy. Oh and picking a name. That should be interesting, since Jo-Ann and I have not been able to agree on names. But we will see...
ld me the news, I asked if it was a girl or a boy. She replied, It’s a little boy. Everything after that I did not hear. Not that I was not interested mind you, but that my mind was trying to compute It’s a boy! I then got the opportunity to share this news with my wife. I quickly called her. What an amazing moment. Luckly, Jo-Ann and I were both available to stop everything and go into the city to meet with our social worker and see the first pictures of our Son. We took the train in. Of all the years that I have taken the train, this was by far the longest train ride ever. The initial call was at 11:50 am, we were in the agencies office by 2:30pm the same day. The social worker handed us a folder and some pictures. The first pictures we were to see of our son. We read about our son's history and medical reports. Korea is very thorough in their child referrals. We learned just about everything we need to know about him. There was some medical stuff that we need to give to a doctor who is experienced in adoption referrals, but all in all a good day. Jo-Ann and I, excited about the referral, decided to celebrate at her favorite restaurant, Penang. The next step is to talk to the referral doctor and then we need to formally accept the referral and then more waiting. The social worker told us that it may be up to 4 months before we can meet our son. In the meantime we have some "nesting" to do. We have been starting to think about nursery themes and colors. Before we got a referral it was so difficult to focus on these things because we didn't know the age or the sex of the child. Everything we bought in preparation had to be generic. Good for both a little girl and a little boy. Oh and picking a name. That should be interesting, since Jo-Ann and I have not been able to agree on names. But we will see...